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Prerequisites for Encouragement (of children):
- To be sensitive how the child /person perceives and responds to
encouragement strategy
- To sincerely believe in the child´s /person´s abilities and willingness
- To recognize the child´s /person´s assets
- To have confidence in one´s ability to influence the child /person
Courage
The essential ingredients of courage are:
+ Confidence in oneself
+ Ability to deal with whatever situation may arise.
The courageous person believes:
+ One can work toward finding solutions
+ One can handle any situation
+ One can accept anything without feeling defeated or giving up
+ One is capable of maintaining one´s value of self-respect
The discouraged person:
* has neither confidence in his own ability, nor in life
* achieves pessimistic expectations
* is concerned with status, prestige and anticipation of losing
What one believes about oneself is the basis for action.
Once we have a definite conviction, we create experiences to confirm our convictions, perceive only what agrees with our assumptions and ignore all that would contradict with our concepts and beliefs.
Anticipations and expectations constitute the strongest human motivations.
The process of discouragement as well as that of encouragement constitute changes in the person´s concept and expectations of himself. If he is induced to expect more and better deeds from himself, then he is encouraged; conversely if his doubt in his abilities is increased, he becomes discouraged!
Dinkmeyer, D., Dreikurs, R., Encouraging Children to Learn, Prentice & Hall, N.Ed. 2000